It’s a big day at Das Schmidt Haus — our firstborn daughter Lucy turns three and also starts preschool today. She’s entering a new stage, and ready or not, Joel and I are entering a new phase of parenthood — one that I hadn’t really given much thought to until yesterday.
I had a back and forth with a reader of our blog, prompted by the following question from yesterday’s post: Wouldn’t it be beautiful if we depended on God the way a baby depended on her mother from the moment of conception?
The reader responds: “Amen! I could sure use that ability right now. Broken hearted for my daughter because she didn’t make the A Team for volleyball. She made C and her other league teammates made A. I’m having a hard time with it and teaching her that this is where God wants her to be.”
Ahh, I was immediately transported back to sixth grade, over 20 years ago, and became flooded with similar memories and emotions: rejection, failure, being on the outside looking in, simply feeling I wasn’t good enough. Sixth grade was tough.
And then I realized that one day, in the not so far off future, Lucy may find herself facing these similar emotions. And my heart sank for her (and admittedly a little for Joel and me, too). How will we parent through those difficult moments?
While my heart breaks for the girl who didn’t make the A team in volleyball, my prayers really are offered for her mother who is struggling to find the right words, the right approach, the right anything, to help her daughter through this tough, but passing, time. A time possibly prime for teachable moments and strong character development.
So I told the reader I would pose the question: How do you help your children seek God’s will and depend on Him for strength and peace during experiences that leave them feeling left behind, forgotten, rejected, and less than? I certainly don’t have the answers or experience and can use the advice, too. Let’s just hope I have a few more years to learn before needing to implement!