She may not be perfect (pretty darn close), but she’s perfect for me.
How often have you heard some guy refer to his wife as “The Old Ball-and-Chain” or some other derogatory term? Nice witness to the sanctity of marriage, right? We can do better — much better! Living in a culture that readily objectifies women and seeks to redefine marriage, it’s up to us men to turn the tide. A good way to start is by properly honoring our wives, even when they’re not in our presence. To honor my beautiful wife Lisa on St. Valentine’s Day, I present five reasons why I love my wife.
- Lisa brought me to the Church.Â Okay, thatâ€™s something, but itâ€™s actually how she brought me to the Church. Rather than go for the head, she launched a body blow. Punched me right in the heart.Â â€œHow do I know youâ€™re a man of God if you donâ€™t go to church anywhere?â€Â Ouch; begin argument. Her strategy was brilliant. She knew better than to try to make an intellectual argument. Instead, she immediately put me on the defensive. By the time we were done trading verbal jabs, I barked, â€œFine, Iâ€™ll goÂ yourÂ church withÂ you!â€ I think I actually hit myself with that one. Next Sunday, I went to my first Mass. A few months later, I was in RCIA. I never had a chance.
- Lisa is humble.Â What kind of a person gives up a prestigious career with job security, great benefits, and six-figure income, just a few years out of graduate school? It might not be for everyone, but Lisa justÂ couldn’tÂ shake the notion that God was calling her to be a full-time at-home parent as we sought to grow our family. She willingly traded a life of TV interviews, merit raises, and job offers for the demanding,Â under-appreciatedÂ life of service to the children of Das Schmidt Haus. The best part is that she knocks the stay-at-home-Mom gig out of the park! The rhythm of our home flows with the liturgical seasons and feast days, because she totally gets the idea of “domestic church”.
- Lisa is talented.Â From the pages of our blog, people may expect Lisa to be a brilliant spiritual writer and a polished public speaker. True, but did you know that she is also a crazy gifted singer? Early on in our courtship, she gave me a recording. I made the mistake of listening to it in my car; I almost drove off the road! She could use her musical gifts for her own glory, but instead chooses to put them only in service to the Church.
Lisa supports me.Â Regarding all those talents I mentioned above, we could totally build our familyâ€™s service to the Church around Lisaâ€™s manifold gifts. However, she instead supports me in deacon formation and aligns everything else around that. When I contemplate the number of singing and speaking events she has had to turn down because they conflicted with formation, it makes my head hurt. If, God willing, I get ordained, it will largely be due to the generosity of her support/martyrdom.
- Lisa makes me a better man.Â Lisa is a maximizer who sets high standards andÂ doesn’tÂ settle for mediocrity from herself or others. For my part, she holds me accountable for being the best husband and father I can be, which I likeâ€¦usually (itâ€™s good for me). And when I mess-up, which inevitably I do, sheÂ doesn’tÂ advertise it. Sheâ€™s the best publicist I have; seeÂ Why I Love My HusbandÂ andÂ Why I Love My Husband (Vol. 2). If she lives long enough to take up my canonization cause, it will be a slam dunk. Seriously, whatâ€™s not to love about that?!
I could go on and on; this is just a start. I have a lot more, but I’m saving up for future “Why I Love My Wife” posts. Happy St. Valentine’s Day, Sweetie! You are a blessing and a joy; I love you very, very much!
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Enough from me. Now, let’s hear fromÂ you! Link-up or comment below and tell the world whyÂ youÂ loveÂ yourÂ wife.