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  1. Theresa

    A good, deep friendship takes time to develop so the virtue of patience is a good thing to work on while looking for that spiritual friend. I have discovered that spiritual friendships come into my life at times when I need a boost and that friendship does not end, no matter what.

  2. In doing #2, God has given me some very dear friends. The summer before my junior year of college, I longed for a Christian friend that summer/at work. So, I asked for one. After checking out my work space and not finding “the one,” I learned that there would be one more person joining the crew. The first time we met, she was reading ‘The Screwtape Letters’ by C.S. Lewis and I knew that God had answered my prayer. I took that as “my sign” and went straight to work being her friend. Luckily, she (Heather) is extremely friendly, welcoming and warm.

    Interestingly enough, her roommate became my second “prayed-for” friend. While I had met her through Heather, we hadn’t really developed our own friendship. The year after graduating college was a really hard transition. I desperately needed friends and someone to ‘show me the way’ to be single and still love life. I felt very alone and asked God for a friend…and Andrea happened to be available that evening, when I needed a friend most. She has been an incredible blessing to me – and did indeed help point me to Christ so that I could rejoice in life.

    In fact, Lisa, you were an answer to prayer, too! When I was searching for a job, I had asked God for a job that would allow me to live in Ames, work with high school students in an educational setting, with at least one Christian. That was you! I still remember one of our first conversations when we were talking about youth & their future and you said, “What about the state of their souls?” …and I knew that I had a friend – and was where I’d asked to be. :)

    • Excellent commentary, Jess! Thank you for sharing. As for that comment I made way back then … certainly one from the Holy Spirit because I do not remember it one bit. :) Thank you for taking me back.

      So have you read The Screwtape Letters? C.S. Lewis also writes about friendship in his book The Four Loves. “We picture lovers face to face but friends side by side; their eyes look ahead.” Love that quote!

  3. Whoa. I just finished reading the daily readings with the kids and was coming down to the computer to email you and the other 2 lovely ladies I was blessed to spend the day with yesterday to say, “Did you read the first reading today?!?!?! How appropriate for today!” But then I got side-tracked in checking facebook and saw this post. Holy Spirit moment right there. Love you!

    • So timely, isn’t it? This post started out to be … “So let me tell you about MY day yesterday with some awesome spiritual friends!” Then I felt it sounded all too … “my day rocked, yours sucked!” So I stuck with the wisdom of Sirach. :)

      Thank you for a beautiful day, yesterday. Can’t wait to see how #2 shapes up. Love you, too!

  4. Thank you for this post, as always. I just found out my spiritual friend is moving across the country! Sooooo sad right now, but know that I am blessed to have her in my life still!

    • I am so sorry to hear this, Fran! I’ll pray for you during this transition. Thank goodness we live in this high-tech age, though, huh? Maybe you two can schedule regular Skype dates? Grab a cuppa whatever you fashion and sit and chat for an hour.

  5. Beautiful! I’m so humbled and overwhelmed by the blessings my spiritual friendships (in person & through social networking/blogging) bring me on a daily basis. I hope we can make that zoo play date happen someday and meet in person, my blogging, CatholicMom spiritual friend! :)

  6. Thanks, Denise! And also thank you for reminding me about that book. I heard the authors interviewed by Tony Rossi on Christopher Close-up several weeks ago, and have been meaning to get a copy of the book since. Sounds like a good summer read for sure!

  7. Spiritual friends are so important! And I don’t think we can make them by trying to “make friends” in the usual way, but by prayer, and by going through our spiritual practice side by side. Nobody is lacking, but some people are going to resonate with us more than others.

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