1. I would add one more thing: Sometimes a different approach may be necessary, especially if the wife is the one who isn’t interested in NFP.

    My wife found Catholic teaching completely unconvincing (and a bit horrifying) when she heard it. Some regressive, sexist, and judgmental attitudes of a few Catholic NFP promoters, combined with questionable or outdated science in the materials, really left a bad taste in both of our mouths.

    What convinced her was the secular NFP (FAM) book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It approaches the method from a feminist, women’s health perspective. The book lays out why contraception is bad for women’s health. It explains why NFP/FAM IS women’s empowerment in a straightforward, scientific, frank way that we both really appreciated.

    20somethingcatholic has a great article on promoting the method for women’s health and how that can get people interested in the theological side of things. http://20somethingcatholic.wordpress.com/2013/07/23/catholicism-nfp-and-the-golden-era-that-never-was/

    BillingsLife was founded by two married Catholic doctors and approached NFP from a non-sectarian medical perspective. They have a great website at http://www.thebillingsovulationmethod.org

  2. No offence, but why do not people discuss NFP before marriage? I would not marry a person who expects to use contraception. I think marriage prep should help couple prepare to meet these challenges. And, sadly, too often, the spouse who wants to use contraception can become unpleasant.

    Something as basic as this should be part of courtship discussions.

      • Renee

        I agree with both comments. I do know of a few dioceses (Washington is one) that require the topic be discussed and require the couple to attend an initial session with a NFP program of their choosing. Some priests then require that the couple follow-through with 2 or more follow-up sessions prior to signing off on that ‘requirement’. As for RCIA classes, parishes should discuss NFP. If NFP isn’t being discussed at your parish for Pre-Cana or RCIA, etc, then I would encourage people to talk with their priest.

    • Scott and Kimberly Hahn wrote about their studies of contraception in their conversion story: Rome Sweet Home. Interestingly enough, it was Kimberly who discovered the Church’s teaching on birth control while taking a class on Christian morality. She became convinced of the teachings against contraception first and brought it to Scott. It was then that Scott began investigating the Catholic Church further almost leading to their divorce during his conversion.

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