I’m 33-weeks pregnant now. All is actually really good! I haven’t had the swelling like the other pregnancies, and so far I’m avoiding the pinched sciatic nerve pain I had while pregnant with Jude. But I’m struggling with one thing and just need to get it off my chest.Â Long story here, and I’ll try to make it short given these are meant to be QUICK takes.
Our family’s primary healthcare facility is the newÂ pro-life clinicÂ in town.Â My doctor there has delivery privileges at the hospital where I’ll labor. However he can’t be my lead physician because heÂ doesn’t have privileges for patients who’ve had c-sections. That would be me. A few weeks ago I transferred care to the team of doctors who performed my cesarean withÂ Jude,Â and now I’m experiencing the ironic anti-life stuff that plagues the OBGYNÂ world.
While under care at the pro-life clinic,Â I had a couple of ultrasounds that provided us as much information as necessary.Â I did not have a “typical” thorough 20-week ultrasound meticulously checkingÂ for chromosomal or genetic abnormalities. The new OBGYN practice is now insisting I have an ultrasound to check for those abnormalities given “my older age.” A few thoughts.
- I’m 37. Still young. Why some doctors rest solely on one study completed back in the 70s linking maternal age to chromosomal abnormalities yet ignore several other studies since that time rebuking those results is beyond me. But baby docs who advocate for increased abortion rights doesn’t make sense to me, either.
- The results of this ultrasound will not offer any necessary information to the doctors in terms of my impending delivery options. The results will simply indicate if our babyÂ MAYÂ have genetic abnormalities. And those results areÂ NEVERÂ wrong, are they?!
- To assess the viability of a VBAC delivery, another ultrasound must be performed at 38-weeks to check baby’s size and position in the womb. So why not just wait for that one, which has to be done anyway?
So again, I ask,Â why do I need an ultrasound now?Â All other signs of my pregnancy and baby’s growth suggest a healthy one. Let me repeat that. Aside from the bogus high-risk age issue, there are no other risk factors. And bottom line, we’ll love the child we receive as a precious gift from God regardless.
It’s just so maddening. Oh, and of course, theÂ “are-you-done” sterilization question was one of theÂ firstÂ questions this doctor asked. She also got plenty of digs in on my pro-life doc. Now I don’t want to walk into that clinic next week with my militant Catholic guns blazing, but I often wonder:Â What’s my price going to be forÂ not standing up for the truth when among unbelievers or critics?Â
Joel’s going with me to my appointment this coming week. Four guns blazing just might get our point across. We hope. We pray.
With that off my chest, let’s get on to #2 – #7!
On a happier note, I started seeing aÂ prenatal chiropractorÂ a couple of weeksÂ ago who’sÂ helping me mentally and physically prepare for aÂ VBAC. She’s a Believer who loves babies. Pretty sure she’s the best thing sinceÂ Great Plains pizza. I can’t say she’s solely responsible for this, but when I started seeing her, baby’s head was all up in my ribs. Baby’s head is now down, down, down. Yes sir, that’s my baby! Just stay there, please. And Baby, feel free to come out once those lungs are healthy. Then maybe we won’t even have to deal with the aforementioned 38-week ultrasound business.
So yeah, what a week it’s been here at Das SchmidtÂ Haus. Along with all the doctor appointments, homeschooling is now in full force. One week in, Iâ€™m becoming aware of how criticalÂ organizationÂ is to our overall homeschooling plan and management of our household. I look back at the summer and fear I missed out on three-months of preparation time, but really, there was no way I could have planned for it. I just needed to jump in and begin sorting out what works and what doesn’t for our family, which curricula does and doesn’t work, how to manage the toddler while giving instruction to the kindergartener, which extracurricularsÂ I took on that I shouldn’t have, etc. Certainly this will be a year of ongoing assessment and reflection. I thought about sharing the resources I’m using this year, but I’m pretty sure I’ll be changing about 75% in, oh, about two weeks. Stay tuned until May 2014 for a recap.
All summer I’ve been sorting through some emotions of lack of purpose. Crazy, I know. My constant prayer has been for the Lord to help settle my restless heart, to realizeÂ beingÂ a mother is more important thanÂ doingÂ anything else. But I have to admit, this week’s “to-dos” have been good for me. We had a schedule and with that came a little more household structure and tangible accomplishments achieved each day — all very purposeful and good. I’m learning I can’t underestimate the importance and meaningfulness of work to my overall psyche.
Reminds me of spiritual direction I received from a Benedictine monk and priest about a year ago. He encouraged me to adapt a model of St. Benedict’s Rule for my household — to schedule times for prayer, work, rest, and play as best I can throughout the day. He reminded me that theÂ domestic can indeed take on a monastic feel. With our homeschooling schedule, I think I’m finally understanding his point.
Brings me to this thought:Â Ora etÂ labora.Â Pray and work.Â This is the simple yet powerfulÂ motto of the Benedictines. When I hear that phrase, this oil painting calledÂ The AngelusÂ byÂ FrenchÂ painterÂ Jean-FranÃ§oisÂ Millet comes to mind. I would like to getÂ a reproduction ofÂ it for our classroom space.
Five years ago on Labor Day weekend, I actually labored our daughter Lucy Ann. Leave it to me to labor on Labor Day. We’re gearing up for a nice weekend with friends and family (Joel’s barbecuing ribs!) and thankfully it looks like we’ll get a break from these uncharacteristically hot late summer temps we’re “enjoying” here in Iowa.
Happy fifth birthday, Goose! We are grateful for your never-ending joy, generosity, friendliness, initiative, enthusiasm, sociability, and optimism.
Finally, on this Labor Day weekend, let us give thanks for employment and pray for those who need work.
Prayer for Those in Need ofÂ Employment
Gracious and loving God, you know our need for meaningful work. Send your Holy Spirit to guide those who are searching for employment. Help them to recognize the gifts and talents you have given them.
Deepen their desire to follow your will. Inspire them as they contact potential employers. Give them patience as they wait for responses. Shelter them from feelings of rejection. Protect them from discouragement. Give them courage to overcome fear.
Shower on them the graces they need to persevere. Let this time of searching become an opportunity to grow in faith, to cultivate the virtue of hope, and to experience your healing love. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen
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