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  1. Thanks for sharing Lisa! I look forward to your other posts! It´s been so interesting for us to start homeschooling because a big part of it for us was also to “slow down”, enjoy each other, etc. Yet then since we have such an active parish and also homeschool co-op I find my self still needing to say “no” so that we truly can appreciate the togetherness and balance of it all! Prayers for your lovely family!

    • Nicole, thank you for sharing your input! Last year I feel into that “trap” of overcommitting with extra-curriculars, too. On top of that, our suburb happens to be on the far end of where all the activities are located, so we packed on a lot of miles and spent a lot of money on gas and time in the car. Needless to say, I didn’t sign us up for much this year, and it’s been a better fit for our family! Prayers for your lovely family, too!

  2. Thanks for sharing Lisa! I look forward to your other posts! It’s been so interesting for us to start homeschooling because a big part of it for us was also to “slow down”, enjoy each other, etc. Yet then since we have such an active parish and also homeschool co-op I find my self still needing to say “no” so that we truly can appreciate the togetherness and balance of it all! Prayers for your lovely family!

    • Nicole Ernest, thank you for sharing your input! Last year I feel into that “trap” of overcommitting with extra-curriculars, too. On top of that, our suburb happens to be on the far end of where all the activities are located, so we packed on a lot of miles and spent a lot of money on gas and time in the car. Needless to say, I didn’t sign us up for much this year, and it’s been a better fit for our family! Prayers for your lovely family, too!

  3. Lynne

    Thanks ! Love this ! And it is how I have viewed our homeschooling endeavours the last dozen plus years. I, too, have looked to St. Benedict…still learning to balance and keep things simple. But the outcome so far has been so wonderful!

  4. this was so beautiful and thought-provoking. I can´t wait to read more in this series. It´s funny, but the longer I homeschool the longer the list of reasons for doing it seems to get (along with the number of students!) Thanks so much for sharing this.

  5. this was so beautiful and thought-provoking. I can’t wait to read more in this series. It’s funny, but the longer I homeschool the longer the list of reasons for doing it seems to get (along with the number of students!) Thanks so much for sharing this.

  6. Barely more than 10 years ago, I was a public school teacher who frowned on and even tried to talk people out of homeschooling. I was ignorant to what it really meant and how it actually worked. God began softening my heart to the idea when we had our oldest in a 1/2 day preschool program. I felt like we had suddenly jumped on a roller coaster and our life was no longer our own. We were forced into living our life around a schedule that someone else dictated. We missed each other, we saw our son’s behaviors changing as he became just another kid in the crowd, and it just felt all wrong for our family. In looking back I think we too were looking for that Holy Leisure that you speak of-I just didn’t have the words for it then. We began homeschooling for a couple of reasons but every year, actually more often than that, we add more reasons to our very long list of why homeschooling is right for our family.

    My personal opinion is that the Holy Spirit nudges many, many more hearts that just the ones who actually act on it and choose to homeschool. Our society stereotyped homeschoolers for a very long time and I am so glad to see that truths of the fruit that it produces are coming forward and changing those misinformed opinions so that the voice of God can be more easily heard.

    Great post, Lisa! God’s blessings on your homeschooling journey!

  7. Gabriela

    I am a rookie homeschooler (this is our second year at it for a 6th and a 4th grader plus two little ones) and that Otium Sanctum is something I was really trying to achieve. Now, I sit back and enjoy our homeschooling days as our friends from “regular” school drive around the city like crazy trying to get their kids to “have it all” while, many times, missing the chance to just BE.

  8. Jessica

    Amen to turning to God and one another for input rather than the “neighbors” of the Internet. Thank you. Our decision precedes even having children and it rooted in a calling that far surpasses our virtue :) It’s like when Peter said, “to whom shall we go, Lord?” We cannot see any school that would make us choose to stop homeschooling, despite our many, many challenges. There is such grace in the place where we say “yes” and I am humbled every day!

  9. Grace Schuler

    I chose to homeschool for the same reason I chose to be a stay-at-home mom: I wanted to be the one raising my own children. (Not that I do it all myself, if I didn’t have a husband who fully supports me in both of these decisions, and a God who gives me grace and strength, I couldn’t do it!) While it was and is vital to raise my own children when they were and are very young, my responsibility does not stop just because they’ve reached school age. (Which around here, most people seem to think is 3!)

  10. Wonderfully helpful for a fellow novice homeschooling mama (oldest only 4.5). It is so true that it’s NOT the world’s decision but our own. And to shove out the voices of doubt and dissent when they’re not our own can be tricky. Bless you and thank you!

  11. I love this post, Lisa. We have a a number of people not on board with our decision to homeschooling which can be discouraging. But, at the end of the day, when you feel nudges from the Holy Spirit you respond with prayer, discernment, and a wholehearted yes. Its an ongoing journey filled with big Yeses! My oldest is three so till we start a more formal day-to-day curriculum, I’m praying that our nay-sayers’ hearts will be softened because they are very dear to us and play large roles in our children’s lives. Thank you for beautifully articulating another wonderful gift of homeschooling.

    • Alison

      Amanda, we had a lot of nay-Sayers too! There were 2 people ( that’s it) who were supportive! My kids however, are much happier, more self-confident and better behaved than they have ever been :) That helps me know I made the right choice.

  12. Susan

    I’ve been discerning homeschooling this year. I have three kids–6 (she’s in first grade), 2, and 8 months. My daughter is at an excellent, truly Catholic school and we have no complaints. But…homeschooling has been calling to me, and I couldn’t quite put into words why. Holy Leisure. Yes, that’s it. We have a farm, I have to drive my daughter to and from school every day. By the time we get home, we have three hours before bedtime routines start to fit in preparing dinner, eating dinner, homework, and then just being together, all while my husband is milking cows in the barn. He hardly sees my daughter during the week. Is this really the way God intended a family to be? I’ll continue discerning, but now I can put into words what I am striving for: Holy Leisure!

  13. Alison

    I love this…and totally agree. I reluctantly and nervously began homeschooling last year. It was an adjustment but the time to just be and enjoy my kids, to help them learn how to think instead of regurgitate information, play games, enjoy nature, the list could go on and on, is so wonderful! Instead of waking everyone and frantically trying to get out of the house in time, we snuggle on the couch, have breakfast together and do our chores together before w begin school. So much peace. A definite gift from God.

    • Thank you for giving words to the same sense I also had about craving “Holy Leisure”! I am currently discerning homeschooling our four children (ages 6 years to 6 months). A woman from our parish, whose kids are all grown, blesses me by coming to my house weekly to give me a hand. She homeschooled her children, and I found myself asking her one day if she thought “wanting life to slow down” would be a “bad” reason to homeschool. She thought briefly and answered that she thought it would, in fact, be a valid reason. Now I have a good (and old!) way to describe it.

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